There are few, if any, relationships that can top having wonderful women friends. They love you unequivocally, they provide a soft place to land, they take your side and they love being with you - and the wonderful thing is, that is how you feel about them too. They don’t criticize, they don’t cheat, they don’t feel superior to you, they praise you and, if there’s a crisis, they’re the first ones to be there for you.
Women friends are more precious than any worldly riches. They walk in your shoes, they understand you and they love you anyway. I wouldn’t trade a single one of my friends for the handsomest, sexiest, most intelligent man around! Women friends have staying power - they don’t pout, they don’t boss you around. Women friends send you encouraging hand written notes or e-mail messages, they call to see how you’re doing and they’re enthusiastic about getting together with you. Long live women friends and friendships."
“I used to think I was the strangest person in the world but then I thought there are so many people in the world, there must be someone just like me who feels bizarre and flawed in the same ways I do. I would imagine her, and imagine that she must be out there thinking of me too. Well, I hope that if you are out there and read this and know that, yes, it's true I'm here, and I'm just as strange as you.”
- Frida Kahlo -
Last year, I did a Facebook Giving Tree where people privately messaged me with needs they had for the holiday season. Thanks to the generosity of my friends, we were able to provide a great Christmas for a family in need and one I've known for many years.
This year, I decided to set up an account to make it easier for those who want to participate and I'm starting it early too in the hopes that we can fulfill more holiday wishes. If you'd like to participate, please click on the link below and donate. It's very much appreciated!!!
I know everybody is laughing about this Josh Duggar story. Oh, a DUGGAR on Ashley Madison, it's so rich! I wish more people would talk about Anna. I normally keep things light on Facebook, but let's talk about Anna. Let me tell you: Anna Duggar is in the worst position she could possibly be in right now. Anna Duggar was crippled by her parents by receiving no education, having no work experience (or life experience, for that matter) and then was shackled to this loser because his family was famous in their religious circle. Anna Duggar was taught that her sole purpose in life, the most meaningful thing she could do, was to be chaste and proper, a devout wife, and a mother. Anna Duggar did that! Anna Duggar followed the rules that were imposed on her from the get-go and this is what she got in reward- a husband who she found out, in the span of 6 months, not only molested his own sisters, but was unfaithful to her in the most humiliating way possible. While she was fulfilling her "duty" of providing him with four children and raising them. She lived up to the standard that men set for her of being chaste and Godly and in return, the man who demanded this of her sought women who were the opposite. "Be this," they told her. She was. It wasn't enough.
What is Anna Duggar supposed to do? She can't divorce because the religious environment she was brought up would blame her and ostracize her for it. Even if she would risk that, she has no education and no work experience to fall back on, so how does she support her kids? From where could she summon the ability to turn her back on everything she ever held to be sacred and safe? Her beliefs, the very thing she would turn to for comfort in this kind of crisis, are the VERY REASON she is in this predicament in the first place. How can she reconcile this? Her parents have utterly, utterly failed her. Think of this: somewhere, Anna Duggar is sitting in prayer, praying not for the strength to get out and stand on her own, but for the strength to stand by this man she is unfortunately married to. To lower herself so that he may rise up on her back.
As a mother of daughters, this makes me ill. Parents, WE MUST DO BETTER BY OUR DAUGHTERS. Boys, men, are born with power. Girls have to command it for themselves. They aren't given it. They assume it and take it. But you have to teach them to do it, that they can do it. We HAVE to teach our daughters that they are not beholden to men like this. That they don't have to marry a man their father deems "acceptable" and then stay married to that man long, long after he proved himself UNACCEPTABLE. Educate them. Empower them. Give them the tools they need to survive, on their own if they must. Josh Duggar should be cowering in fear of Anna Duggar right now. Cowering. He isn't, but he should be. He should be quaking in fear that the house might fall down around them if he's in the same room as she. Please, instill your daughters with the resolve to make a man cower if he must. To say "I don't deserve this, and my children don't deserve this." I wish someone had ever, just once, told Anna she was capable of this. That she knew she is. As for my girls, I'll raise them to think they breathe fire.
Two years ago today, I said I do to standing by your side through the hard times, I said I do to holding you close when sorrow hit, to hugging you tight when you are filled with joy, to making sacrifices together for our greater goals, to listening and understanding you, to caring for you when you are sick, to loving you through grumpy moods and the trials of life. And you said I do to all of those things too. We are not young newlyweds. We’ve had lives before ours together. We know what heartbreak is. We know what pain is. We know what it means to be at your absolute best and worst. And now, together, we know what love is. What joy is. What happiness is. I find all of these things by your side. And I am so proud to be your wife. Always and forever.