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Friday, June 30, 2006

Roll with it

Today I was thinking about how life is a series of choices. I was talking with a group of fellow lawyers, all of whom have taken a different path in the profession and in life.

Later, I spoke to my father on the phone, and he said something I feel is profound and worth sharing. He said that there is no need for drama in life, that you need to roll with what is happening and when you've got people around you who are supportive of you, there's no problem. Enjoy the journey.

That is the thing about choices: we should make them to the best of our ability and then enjoy the journey. There is no guarantee of happiness, fulfillment or satisfaction with our choices. That is not the job of the choice itself. It is our job to make our choices and find our happiness along the way.

Sometimes, you know immediately when you've made a bad choice. That sinking feeling hits you and you want badly to press the delete key, but you can't. Those are the times you learn from the experience. The mistake is your guide to making better choices in the future. Roll with it.

Other times, you make what you think is the right choice and it turns out to be just that. You are happy, fulfilled, and you look forward to the future. That experience is your guide to learning to make good choices. Roll with it.

Remember as well that other people's choices, good or bad, are not a guide to your own. Only you know what will ultimately make you happy. Do not hinge your choice on external factors, look within and figure out if it's the choice that speaks to you. If it is, you will know it. Stop drowning out its voice with the loud yell of your external concerns.

Life has a rhythm and to everything there really is a season. Whatever happens, whatever choice you make...roll with it. And it will be alright.

Wednesday, June 28, 2006

It's boring and it sucks

Ok, so let's get right to it: being healthy and fit can be boring and it can suck! There, I said it. Yeah, we all know it's good for you and you will feel better and I'll be the first one to tout the benefits of weight loss, but I'm also the first to be honest and say it can be boring and it can suck.

For those of you who don't know, I've lost 53.5 pounds since October putting me at the lowest weight I've ever been. Applause, applause, thanks and so forth. Ok now, here's the deal: It really has been the best thing I've ever done for myself. I feel better than I ever have and I'm more fit, have more energy, and I can actually go up more than one flight of stairs without feeling totally winded. Unless I'm on the Stairmaster at which point all bets are off.

Despite all the plus sides to it, I do feel it's fair to point out that there will be days, even whole weeks, where the thought of another freakin salad for lunch makes you want to order from Pizza Zone AND Chili's to Go on the same night! Eating healthy can be boring and it can suck sometimes. I think it's good for everyone to know this so they don't get discouraged on what is a very long (read life-long) weight loss journey.

This is why, for those of you on the journey, YOU MUST NOT DEPRIVE YOURSELF. It's in all caps and bold, but in case you missed it: YOU MUST NOT DEPRIVE YOURSELF.

Now, this doesn't mean you have license to go out there and bankrupt yourself at every drive-thru in town. It just means that it's ok to have a cheeseburger, a couple of slices of pizza, or a candy bar. Don't think weight loss means you have to be good (read boring and sucks) all the time. You can have the things you love, you just can't have them in the massive, "I need a crane to lift this" portions you might previously have been accustomed to.

Weight loss and the maintenance of it are a life-long journey. That means changing your thinking about food. Food is not the enemy. Even chocolate and cheeseburgers. Hell, those two are my best friends! They just aren't my friends in the same way they used to be. And we're all good with that.

Eat nutritiously most of the time, exercise, get some sleep, drink water...and have a Hershey's Kiss. It's really ok.